Darren Stehle

Darren Stehle

Montreal
You make a real difference in the world every time you stand up courageously and proudly for what you know is right, ethically supporting a common humanity of dignity and equity.
06
Mar
The Freedom of Accepting Who You Are Right Now

The Freedom of Accepting Who You Are Right Now

“When you drop the struggle with shame and accept life as it is without judgment, you find great freedom on
1 min read
01
Mar
Shoving My Queer Agenda in Your Face — Take It!

Shoving My Queer Agenda in Your Face — Take It!

For as long as I can remember it’s always been a man and a woman. For as long as
3 min read
26
Feb
What Are We Striving For — As Individuals and as a Human Collective?

What Are We Striving For — As Individuals and as a Human Collective?

Some time ago I watched the third season of Netflix’s Chef’s Table. One of the featured chefs, Jeong
3 min read
22
Feb
To Be Happy and Fulfilled As Gay Men We Need To Break Out Of The Box

To Be Happy and Fulfilled As Gay Men We Need To Break Out Of The Box

When Did You Come Out? If you’re over 40 you might have come out at a time when you
3 min read
19
Feb
Kevin Spacey, #MeToo, And The Problem Of Gay Shame

Kevin Spacey, #MeToo, And The Problem Of Gay Shame

“As those closest to me know, in my life I have had relationships with both men and women. I have
5 min read
19
Feb
Today I Saw My Body in the Mirror and It’s Ageing

Today I Saw My Body in the Mirror and It’s Ageing

Actually, I wanted to write that my body has betrayed me. That sounds more dramatic and outside of my control.
3 min read
16
Feb
What I Learned About Loving My Body As A Gay Man

What I Learned About Loving My Body As A Gay Man

Everyone has a story about their body. Some of us want to look great for the beach, to feel powerful
6 min read
14
Feb
The 10 Commandments for Being a Respectable Gay Man

The 10 Commandments for Being a Respectable Gay Man

Behold! The 10 Commandments of heteronormativity for gay men who want to fit in, fall in line, and be respectable.
3 min read
13
Feb
By Fitting In Have You Left the Best Parts of You In The Closet?

By Fitting In Have You Left the Best Parts of You In The Closet?

One of my biggest realizations from reading The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs was that my success in life is
5 min read
08
Feb
You’re Gay, Out, and Successful – Is That All There Is?

You’re Gay, Out, and Successful – Is That All There Is?

The trappings of normality in the straight world come with a cost. Fitting in requires an investment of false energy
4 min read