self-mastery

02
Oct
I Wish We Didn't Have to Deal With All This

I Wish We Didn't Have to Deal With All This

How do you deal with all the queer injustice in the world — without losing your mind?
7 min read
22
Sep
The Slow Work of Reasonableness

The Slow Work of Reasonableness

What happens between losing your cool and getting your mind back?
3 min read
04
Sep
“Queering the Way” Is Now in Paperback

“Queering the Way” Is Now in Paperback

Available now on Amazon — wherever you are.
02
Aug
“That's Around the Time I Stopped Following You”

“That's Around the Time I Stopped Following You”

What a former client's honesty taught me about anger, leadership, and knowing yourself.
3 min read
05
Jun
Nearly a Decade in the Making - "Queering the Way" Is Available Now

Nearly a Decade in the Making - "Queering the Way" Is Available Now

For the queer and trans leaders who've been waiting for someone to name what they already know.
1 min read
16
May
Why My Book Is Not Perfect — And Why That Matters

Why My Book Is Not Perfect — And Why That Matters

On practice, imperfection, and what queer leadership actually looks like in the real world.
2 min read
10
Mar
Queering The Way: A Virtue Ethics for the Margins

Queering The Way: A Virtue Ethics for the Margins

It’s just a jump to the left… and then a step to return.
7 min read
16
Feb
Novelty Without Prejudice

Novelty Without Prejudice

A poem about open-minded attention in an age of distraction and grievance.
1 min read
01
Feb
What Do You Stand For, and How Would You Know?

What Do You Stand For, and How Would You Know?

If you don’t have a clearly defined purpose, how will you know if your choices are moving you in the right direction?
4 min read
20
Jan
Disillusioned with the World, or Finally Seeing It Clearly? What That Demands of Humane Leadership Now.

Disillusioned with the World, or Finally Seeing It Clearly? What That Demands of Humane Leadership Now.

When social myths collapse, you can go numb or get specific about what you stand for, and learn to lead without dehumanizing others.
11 min read