Each one of us manifests so-called masculine and feminine character traits.
None of those qualities are inherently harmful or gender-specific.
None of those qualities take away one’s humanity, value, or worth. The qualities we call ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ could be easily replaced with a non-binary, non-divisive descriptive — like presentation.
Personality Characteristics Are an Artificial Construct.
What we call personality are ideas we have labelled with words.
These ideas are not fixed and they vary across cultures and time. The more you think about it — truthfully, compassionately, and with humility — the more silly an idea these labels become. There’s simply no need to rigidly enforce presenting as masculine or feminine.
We no longer need a two-column approach to gender and sexual identities, nor do we need binary descriptions for personality.
A person can be gentle, independent, assertive, loyal, self-reliant, warm, and so on. How can we presume to associate any of those characteristics with gender? The way you choose to describe another person is none of your business. Well-intended or not, describing someone else is prejudiced.
How someone decides to label themselves is their sovereignty.
Self-actualization must be a positive form of freedom.
Some people fight to limit the dignity and humanity of others who only wish to be, express, and present as who they are on the outside as they feel on the inside. But dignity and respect are patently simple. If you want respect for who you are — if you want to be loved, cared for, and accepted for who you are without question, and without restriction or limitation — you owe the same humane respect to everyone else.
It is not the qualities or characteristics of the so-called masculine and feminine themselves that should be controlled.
Rather, it’s the ideological mindset of people who seek to limit and control identity who should be fiercely opposed.
We are all masculine and feminine to different degrees, but we don’t need those labels anymore. As a binary, those labels have become toxic polarities.
Consider instead describing how you feel — as who you are, without censure.
Embrace fresh, self-empowering descriptions that don’t limit you to rigid, artificial personality characteristics, and a binary prescription of gender.
Be and do you.
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