Why success & failure are not opposites on The Shaun Proulx Show.
What Is Failure?
Failure is the decision to give up, made while under stress, threat, or fear; or because you don’t believe in your ability to accomplish your goal.
A task or action that doesn’t work out as planned could be called a ‘missed-take.’ Choosing not to act on something is not failure — that’s called clarity!
Success Is Not an End-Destination, It’s a Measure of Progress
- If you don’t accomplish a goal, does that make you unsuccessful and a failure? If your actions are too stressful, it’s human nature to fight, flee, or freeze. The solution is to do less to reduce or eliminate stress.
- Failure and success are not dualistic. This is why people get stressed out about failing.
- Success as a measurement is a process of acting towards an intended outcome, but failure is a moment.
- Failure is not a process. Failure is the “nonperformance of something due.” No value judgment is required.
- Success is a process that requires mistakes and well as missed-takes on the way to solving a problem or accomplishing a goal.
- Success and failure are not in opposition to each other. If you don’t succeed at a goal, that doesn’t make you a failure. If you recognize that truth, you will be more successful in life.
The 4-Step Process to Success
- You can’t put the goal before the action.
- You can’t put the action before the practice.
- You can’t put the practice before the process.
- Your process will fail if you are not in emotional alignment.
Remember, what fails is the process, not the human!
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Thanks to Shaun Proulx for allowing me to re-cast this discussion from the complete show, "Rethinking Success and Failure; UFO Secrets; Musical Guest Melanie Durrant.”
Photo by Ellen Qin